Let me begin by saying that whether or not you choose to have breast reconstruction surgery should be your decision alone. Do not allow someone else to dictate whether you do or do not have this procedure.
Breast reconstruction is a type of surgery for women who have had a breast removed (mastectomy). The surgery rebuilds the breast so that it is about the same size and shape as it was before. The nipple and areola (the darker area around the nipple) can also be added. Most women who have had a mastectomy can have reconstruction. Women who have had a lumpectomy may not need reconstruction. Breast reconstruction is done by a plastic surgeon. There are several different methods for reconstruction.
Immediate reconstruction is done at the same time as the mastectomy. An advantage to having immediate reconstruction, is that the chest tissues are undamaged by radiation therapy or scarring. This often means that the final result looks better. Also, immediate reconstruction means one less surgery. While my TRAM (transverse rectus abdominis muscle) flap reconstruction was immediate with my first round of cancer, it took almost a year of healing to be complete. For some unknown reason, I had a difficult time healing, causing all of my procedures to be delayed. The recovery from this surgery was not easy.
Delayed reconstruction means that the rebuilding is started later. For some women, this may be advised if they need radiation to the chest area after the mastectomy. Radiation therapy given after breast reconstruction surgery can cause complications. Due to radiation treatment, my second reconstruction surgery was delayed for three months. I had Latissimus dorsi flap reconstruction the second time around. I will say that recovery from this procedure was much easier.